Lucky Number Seven

Seven years ago today I got married. I was happy, giddy and in love. I was also terrified.

Marriage can be a scary thing…telling someone that you promise to be there for them FOREVER and ever is a bit daunting. I look at the person I was seven years ago and I’m amazed that Trent got down on one knee (in a suit of armor, no less) and asked me to be with him the rest of our lives.

The day we were married, we were facing a whole new world ahead of us. There would be no honeymoon period, no newlywed years spent traveling and reveling in married bliss, as our friends were planning for themselves. Our future seemed very serious, and quite frankly, pretty damn scary. There was a baby on the way and a business being built, and we were just kids! It was overwhelming, and combined with the hormones, I can’t believe I didn’t go off the deep end.

But I didn’t. We didn’t. And even though it was hard some of the time, we moved forward together. There were slammed doors and storming out in to the night and screaming at the top of our lungs….and then, one day, there wasn’t.

I don’t know when it happened. But one day, it seems, we just grew up. We have grown into ourselves and into this marriage until it became the perfect fit. I don’t mean, of course, that our marriage is perfect. Not even close…but who wants perfect, anyway? When I say a perfect fit, I mean that we have reached a place in our relationship where it just fits. It’s comfortable, warm, loving and, dare I say, really freaking happy.

Our wedding song was Ben Harper’s “Forever,” and when I listen to it today, I’m awed by how perfect it is for Trent and I.

Not talkin’ ’bout a year
No not three or four
I don’t want that kind of forever
In my life anymore
Forever always seems
to be around when it begins
but forever never seems
to be around when it ends
So give me your forever
Please your forever
Not a day less will do
From you

I am so proud of this life we’ve built together. So proud of us. We figured it out. Seven years later, I look at that girl on her wedding day and want to give her a hug. “It’s going to be alright,” I’d tell her “In fact, it’s going to be the best thing you ever did.”

Click here to read our interview on marriage over at So Wonderful, So Marvelous. Click here to see Trent looking super dashing in a suit of armor.

Bottom photo by Nicole Coleman