Relaxation

Last night, after a trek across the blizzardy Kansas prairie to get to a family Christmas engagement, we arrived home exhausted and ready for day-long naps. It’s so funny, we spent our entire Christmas Eve and Day at home, snowed in, and happy as clams to be hibernating through the holiday, and when we were forced to leave our house for a mere 27 hours, it almost killed us. I think we are officially in winter mode. Give me the remote, a fire, some hot cocoa (and Bailey’s if the night is just right) and I’m good. We have built up such a collection of movies not yet seen, we may be here until March. Goodbye cruel world, we’ll see you when the temperature hits 60 degrees!

So last night we get home and Lucy, totally spent from the whole Christmas extravaganza, starts screaming. I can’t remember why now, but I’m sure it was either that we made her take off her jammies or put on clean underwear or turn off Thomas the Train….life is hard for that kid. She screamed and screamed until her face was bright red, and then she crawled on to the couch with her daddy to watch football. Somewhere along the line she guilted him into changing the channel, so they both sat there, under piles of blankets, watching the Sound of Music. That’s when I decided to make a break for it.

I took our little TV/DVD player from the kitchen and put it in the bathroom, filled the tub with hot water and bubbles, popped in a rom-com I’d received in my stocking and turned out the lights. This was gonna be ah-may-zing.

I sat down in the tub and immediately realized something was wrong. The water was lukewarm, barely warmer then the air. I like my baths scarily hot, so this certainly would not do. Then, as I emptied out half the tub and started to refill with hotter water, I heard little feet coming up the stairs. Lucy came bursting into the bathroom with Trent right behind her, and within ten seconds had completely stripped down and was climbing into the bath on top of me.

“What are you doing mama? I love baths! Oh, bubbles! I want to take a bath with YOU! Yay! You’re my favorite mommy in the world world and my very best friend!”

As she jumped in, the (still cold) water sloshed out and Trent scolded me for having electronics on the floor. Well, when it was just me in the bath, there wasn’t much danger, was there? He quickly unplugged TV and took it out of the bathroom, turning on the lights on his way out.

There I sat, in cold water, getting soap splashed in my eyes by a three-year-old. After about five minutes I decided this was ridiculous, and got us both out (Lu screaming, of course, because she wanted to play with the bubbles longer). Trent had checked our water heater, and it had gone into “vacation mode” during our holiday absence. The hot water would be back on by morning. I took the wet, screaming child in my room, wrapped both of our cold bodies up in towels and blankets, and proceeded to read an hour of princess books before she went to bed.

Then I went to get a nice glass of wine….and we were out. With the million holiday parties we had to attend this year, we’d given away every bottle, finishing the last one with Christmas dinner.

So I went to bed instead.

Relaxation = FAIL

Happy Birfday to You!

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A very happy birthday to the silliest, strangest, geekiest, lovingest, smartest, beardedest man I know. Don’t worry darling, Jesus won’t overshadow your birth this year….well, at least we’ll try not to let him. Darn Jesus.

Love you more than chocolate chip pankcakes!

xo,
The Wifey

When it is good, it is very, very good

In Love

“Happiness is not a goal; it is a by-product.” ~ Elenor Roosevelt

Thankful

I’m thankful you’re reading this even though I have all but abandoned this site for greener pastures. I’m thankful I have greener pastures at my disposal, even if they are currently hampering my writing here. I’m thankful for the hope that in a month or so, Crazybananas will be once again a place I visit daily.

I’m thankful Trent decided to let us take a road trip this Thanksgiving instead of battling the awful holiday airports. I’m thankful he is the best gift giver, and got Sirius/XM for my car for my birthday this year, so we’ll have plenty of tunes to choose from during our 9+ hour excursion.

If you are not so lucky to be braving a huge road trip with a three-year-old in tow (And seriously, why not? It will be sooo much fun!), you can just click ‘play’ below, and pretend you’re riding along with us. Real time roadtrip updates will be here, until I lose cell service, which will probably be 10 minutes in to said trip (damn you, AT&T!). Check for witty reparte between a grumpy Trent and Megan, and maybe even some gems from Lulu herself. Yesterday she told me to shut up. You can only imagine the joys that will come out of her mouth once she’s been strapped in a car for hours on end.

Yipee!


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On Being a Wife

This weekend I was lucky enough to attend the wedding of two fairly awesome people. Heath and Mikayla, who have been constant comrades of Trent and myself for the last four years, were finally joined as husband and wife. Their wedding was gorgeous, touching, and most importantly, very “them.” From the colors to the music to their poignent, self-written vows, each part of the ceremony and reception reminded me of who they are, both individually and as a couple.

One very important detail I took away from this wonderful weekend is the importance of a strong relationship, and more specifically, the importance of being a good wife. I’m sure most of you never thought you’d hear those words come out of my feminist, progressive, self-sufficient mouth, but just hear me out.

One of the points in Mikayla’s vows really touched me, and that was the part where she promised to be a good wife to him and fulfill his “many” needs. Though we all chuckled at that statement, I knew deep down she meant it. Sometimes our husbands do need quite a lot. And though it is my automatic reaction to bitch and moan and complain about how his needs aren’t more important than my own, sometimes I just need to suck it up and do what I can to make him feel better. And that doesn’t make me less of a feminist. In fact, I feel more empowered knowing that I can make him feel better when no one else can. I need to remember that when I begin to automatically get defensive. Sometimes he needs things, and sometimes I need to be the wife that he needs.

There is a saying that Heath has always repeated when it comes to certain couples, and it was the way he ended his vows to Mikayla this Saturday. When he feels that a man has gotten a better woman than he deserves, he’ll say that person has “outkicked his coverage.” Both Heath and Trent will readily admit that they outkicked their coverage when it comes to their wives, but I need to do my best to remember I outkicked mine as well. I have to try and remember more often that I’m not only a mother and a breadwinner, but also a life partner to someone who needs my support, even when I am not sure I can give it. Mikayla has always excelled at that, putting Heath’s needs before her own and holding her tounge when I have unwisely let my sarcastic side out of it’s cage. I’m so happy I get to watch her, and Heath, as they grow in their marriage. I’m lucky to have someone around that puts being a wife in a perspective that I don’t always notice during my daily trials and tribulations.

Heath and Mikayla, may you always be as happy together as you were this weekend. And when you’re not, may you remember your own words. Sometimes we all need to remember we outkicked our coverage, and put the other person’s needs before our own. Thank you for reminding me that doing this doesn’t make me a weaker partner, but a stronger one.

The Newlyweds!

You can see the very few photos I took (no time, too much fun to be had for photo taking!) at the wedding/rehearsal here.

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