Kindness and Fun

The other night Lucy and I were laying in bed and I asked her how her day was. She was messing around with some stuffed animals and offhandedly said, “It was okay, not great though.”

I asked her what happened and she shared she had her feelings hurt by a friend. When she told me what happened I asked her how she felt about it. She seemed so nonchalant about the whole thing, and I wanted her to know it’s okay to be sad or upset. I feel like much of my childhood was spent ensuring everyone knew I was okay.

Me, I’m okay. Are you okay? Are we okay? Is everything okay? Okay. Good.

When I was sad or angry or upset, I learned at a young age to stuff it deep down until I couldn’t feel it anymore. Except, of course, that never really works, does it? Bad feelings don’t go away by ignoring. You have to face them! And it took me about 30 years to figure that one out. That’s a lot of years of stuffing and having resentment that easily spiraled out of control. I don’t want that for my kids. I want them to know being angry is natural and normal. Being hurt sucks, but it’s worse to pretend you’re okay when you’re really not.

So sitting in bed with Lucy, knowing she must feel hurt and sad, and hearing her say “I’m okay,” really triggered me. I asked gently, “Are you sure you’re okay? It’s alright to be upset. I’d probably be upset if I were you.”

She looked up at me and said, “Yeah, mom, I was upset. I didn’t say anything though. I’m all about kindness now! And fun! So I’m not mad anymore. I’m just gonna have fun instead.”

Kindness and Fun

Well, crap, you guys. I was just schooled in the arena of mental stability by a 7-year-old. It seems I still have much to learn. At least I have the best teachers around me.

A Snow Day, in Photos

“The very fact of snow is such an amazement.” – Roger Ebert

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“There is just something beautiful about walking on snow that nobody else has walked on. It makes you believe you are special.”
– Carol Rifka Brunt

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“Snowflakes are one of nature’s most fragile things, but just look what they can do when they stick together.” – Vista M. Kelly

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Things to Remember

Growling voices, pretending to be monsters. Hiding under beds and blankets.
Pre-bed dance parties, elaborate shows with intermissions and multiple curtain calls.
Sweet cheeks resting on mine as he snuggles in for a nap, both hands holding my face telling me not to leave.
Yelling from the car, “I love you!” and seeing her eyes light up as she waves back.
“I’m never too old, mama. I will never be too old for snuggles. Not even when I’m in college.”
The fighting. They scream at each other with the passion of two little people who are so different and yet so very alike. They hate each other. They love each other. They despise each other. They are each other’s heart.
They call each other “teddy bear.” When one falls and scrapes a knee, the other comes running. “Teddy bear, oh my teddy bear.” In the morning it’s “wake up, teddy bear.” Then they nuzzle into each other and hold on tightly.
Mysteries and games, made up outside. They come in, telling of their clues and what they’ve found. I play along, following the trail, seeing their faces brighten when I pretend to find a new clue they’ve left in the open for me to stumble upon. They giggle, trying to cover their glee.

Pride and Joy

I am so incredibly proud of Lucy, who scored her first ever goal today AND the first goal for her team in 2 seasons. All of the girls work so hard and have improved so much!!! Today they showed what a lot of practice and a good attitude will get ya :) Bes

This weekend I had one of those moments. You know…those moments. The ones you daydream about when you’re uncomfortably pregnant and can’t imagine what color eyes and hair your child will have. You think about the big milestones in their lives, where you’ll be and how you’ll react.

I’ve talked before about Lucy’s incredible soccer team, an awesome group of adorable girls who work so very hard. Kansas City is a HUGE soccer town, and most kids start playing when they are three or four. By the time they are Lucy’s age, they are quite competitive, with many joining traveling teams and advanced leagues. Lucy loves soccer because she loves hanging out with her friends, but she has never been all that serious about it. And most of her team is the same way. Several are very skilled, but most of the girls have only played one season if any at all, and they are playing against girls who have been on teams for four years or more! Let’s just say, our sweet girls had a tough season.

But it was so different from last year. A lot of things seemed to click in practice, and by the last few games, the girls really started to play well. However, the elusive goal was always a tiny bit out of their reach. The coaches decided to give them a little more incentive, and promised the girls if the team could score just one goal in our final game, they would treat all of them to ice cream.

Lucy talked about this promised treat all week long. It was an even bigger deal for her, as Lucy has recently been in the throes of testing for a lactose intolerance, so she hadn’t had dairy in over two weeks. She practiced well and drew up plays at the dinner table, planning for her big moment.

About halfway through the first half on this cold game day, Lucy stole the ball near the our team’s goal, and started taking it upfield. She was running faster than I’d ever seen her, dodging defenders and streaking down the field. As she got closer and closer to the opposing team’s goal, all the parents seemed to hold our breaths…we’d had so many shots at the goal, and yet, nothing. I don’t know if anyone really believed this would be the moment. And then she shot. It was right in the corner of the goal, perfect placement.

Our entire side of the sideline errupted in cheers. I started crying and all of the parents were screaming and hugging. I’m sure the other team thought we were nuts, but this was our first goal in two seasons and it was a big freaking deal! I looked up and saw Lucy’s smile from all the way across the field. I’ll never forget it. All the girls on our team ran over, tackling her with hugs and high fives. They worked so hard together, and watching them all be so happy for Lucy, not a jealous or envious face in the bunch, was so beautiful. This team is one incredible group of little ladies, and I felt proud to be standing on the same field with them and their parents.

We didn’t win the game, but I don’t know if any of the girls even noticed. It was such a spectacular day, and watching them laugh and grin as they ate their celebratory ice cream was worth a million freezing cold evening practices in the dark. I’m not sure if this is the last season of Lucy’s soccer career (she’s undecided if she wants to keep playing or concentrate on something else in her spare time), but if it is, I’m so glad she went out on such a high note. It was one of those moments I know she’ll remember forever. After the game I told her I cried when she scored. “Me too, Mom!” she replied. “But don’t worry, they were happy tears.”

Preschool to Big Girl Room Makeover featuring The Land of Nod

Lulu has grown up so much in the past few years, sometimes I find it difficult to keep up! This week she loves Justin Bieber and yesterday she still loved Dora. A year ago she insisted her favorite color was not just pink, but PINK!!!!! Now she refuses to wear the color and wants everything around her to be blue, blue, blue. She is opinionated and feisty, and I wanted her room makeover to reflect that. We moved to our suburban Kansas City home when she was still in preschool, and her room was a mess of a couple of styles and thrown together looks. Her twin bed actually still sat on the floor instead of on a bed frame, from way back when she’d roll out of it every night as a toddler. For her 7th birthday, Lucy asked if I’d redecorate her room to better reflect her personality, and I jumped at the chance. With some help from The Land of Nod, I was able to make her “blue mermaid party” room a reality!

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Before Dresser & Craft Supplies

The before photos of the room really are sort of pathetic, aren’t they? Originally that tent was fashioned to be a cool hideaway and book area, but it was unfortunately way too big for the space. We tried hanging it over the bed, but the darkness scared her at night and it just looked kind of ragged. The wall hangings over her bed were added later, but they were all mismatched and didn’t have any coherency to them. Her craft area was basically a Rubbermaid tub filled with paint and markers, with no real space to create. Her dresser was one I had in college, but attempted to fancy up using nobs from Anthropologie. The block letters spelling out her name were made by a friend for her nursery, and though we loved them, it was time for them to go.

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Lucy requested her room be blue, her favorite color. The color she picked out was a VERY bright turquoise, but we convinced her to tone it down a bit. She picked out the mermaid bedding from Land of Nod and we designed the room around it. Lucy loves to swim and dreams of being a mermaid herself, plus the reason she loves blue so much is because it reminds her of the ocean, so the bedding is perfect for her. Early on in this process, I created a moodboard to give us an idea of where we wanted to go with the design. Once we were inspired, it was easy to pull together an updated room that was fun and perfect for a seven-year-old mermaid in training!

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Lucy’s poster bed was mine as a child, then was handed down to my niece, and now finally to Lucy. The beautiful blue moth wall decal from Land of Nod is one of Lucy’s favorite parts of the room. She angled it just so, as she wanted it to look like it was flying across her wall.

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The sidetable, chest of drawers and dresser were all purchased from a local furniture store. The bedside lamp was bought at Wal-Mart, and the sketch of a mom and daughter was purchased for $3 in the frame at a local thrift store. The L and the P (her initials) were in her stocking at Christmas a few years back.

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The dresser and giant mirror were specific requests from Lucy. She wanted a space where she could get ready every morning in private, as her two-year-old brother has started to impede on her space. We fancied up the plain white with some fun paper letters spelling out her name from Minted.com. The aged jewelry box was given to Lucy by her aunt, and although the original plan was the polish it up, Lucy decided she liked it better as it was. I agree!

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The desk was purchased at IKEA, and my mother-in-law painted an old chair with a sample of the VERY turquoise paint that Lucy originally wanted for her walls as a compromise (Can you imagine that on the walls? Yikes!). We pulled in a lot of the turquoise detailing throughout the room, from picture frame to her lava lamp, which her super-cool dad bought her as a nightlight. The pendant desk lamp from Land of Nod brings it all together, using almost all the colors that are featured throughout the room. The yellow art caddy gives Lu a space for her art supplies that she uses on a daily basis, and it can be easily stashed away in her desk cabinet when little brother’s grubby hands are looking for some crayons to color the walls.

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Here is a little warning to all you DIY mamas out there…make sure your husband knows your DIY plans! Originally, the cork board and the frame for the incredible art print by Lucy’s desk were decorated in fabulous washi tape that I used to cover up their bland black and brown edges. But when I asked my husband to hang them for me, he thought it was protective packaging tape and ripped it all off! Oh well, they still look nice, although I probably will update them again at some point. It wouldn’t be an at home makeover project without a hiccup or two!

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The details of the room are my favorite parts. I am in love with the floor bins I found at Land of Nod, as Lucy is a bit of a clutter bug, and they make clean up easy and stylish. The rainbow felt garland brightens up the darker blackout curtains, which Lucy originally hated, but once they were hanging with the garland, she loved. We found some amazing art on Etsy that we hung on the walls and personalized the space with lots of family photos. Lucy loves reading, so we made a space where she could display her favorite books of the moment on her chest of drawers. The cute XOXO bookends are from Target.

Creating this beautiful space for Lucy was such a pleasure and a joy! I am so happy she finally has a real, put together space to call her own, which truly reflects who she is. I feel like this room is child-like, but will grow with her through the years.

The Land of Nod provided products for this room makeover project, but all opinions are my own. Thanks Land of Nod!!!

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