I don’t really know where to start this whole thing. I’ve been having this argument in my head for weeks….I should post this. I shouldn’t post this. If I say what I’m feeling will I make someone else feel bad? What if saying this changes people’s opinions of me? What if people think I’m a bad mother?
Whatever. Let’s do this.
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I don’t believe in mom guilt anymore. I mean, I understand lots of moms feel guilty, and I obviously understand at one point I felt horribly guilty myself, but today, I don’t. I’m not sure when it happened, all I know is one day I was leaving Lucy in daycare in tears and a few years later I left Tate behind without a single negative feeling.
My children are so happy. They smile and laugh and love like no little people I’ve ever known. I know it sounds like I’m trying to justify my choice to work…I’m sure that’s what many people reading this will think. But it’s more than that. I don’t have to justify my choice to anyone, not even my kids. Millions of babies are born around the world every day. MILLIONS. So many of those millions of children don’t have a good home or a happy family or food on their dinner plates. My children do. My children want for nothing (excepting maybe that American Girl doll accessory Lu keeps whining about). My children’s lives are filled with people who love them, care for them and bring positivity to their days.
A while ago, I was told by another mother that the way I parent is cruel. I won’t get into specifics, but we obviously have an idealogical difference of “cruelty.” Megan from five years ago would’ve burst into tears. She would’ve felt insecure and guilty and sad and like a failure.
Megan from today? She told said person to shut it (politely of course, she’s not an animal). She spoke of her fabulous almost six year old daughter and how despite any decisions, good or bad, that have been made, she has turned out fantasically. She talked about her beautiful son, who loves her wholly and with no pretenses. She said, quite firmly, that no matter how you mother, if you’re doing what is right for your family, you have no reason to feel guilty.
And I don’t.
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I know, I am the worst blogger in the history blogging, excepting anyone on MySpace circa 2002. I want to write here. My brain is filled with ideas and stories and fun, but the problem with BIG IDEAS is they take some time to come to fruition. So there is this awkward in between time where people are milling around with their hands in their pockets just waiting for things to come together…and that’s about where I am right now.
Also, I’ve had too much Diet Dr. Pepper. Wheeee!
So, until I can tell you fun things about my big ideas, here are a few things going on around the Internet that are making me giggle today:
– 10 Ways the New Mad Men Poster Could’ve Been Less Offensive
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I’m at home for a few days with Mr. Tate who has come down with a lovely case of what I’m hoping is not pneumonia, and between the hacking and wheezing, I’m attempting to finally catch up on a few photos from the holidays…
…more to come, if I can ever peel this lovely, sick little boy out of my arms and into his bed.
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A Tiny Little Rant
/5 Comments/in Family, Grumples, Lucy, Tate /by MeganI don’t really know where to start this whole thing. I’ve been having this argument in my head for weeks….I should post this. I shouldn’t post this. If I say what I’m feeling will I make someone else feel bad? What if saying this changes people’s opinions of me? What if people think I’m a bad mother?
Whatever. Let’s do this.
I don’t believe in mom guilt anymore. I mean, I understand lots of moms feel guilty, and I obviously understand at one point I felt horribly guilty myself, but today, I don’t. I’m not sure when it happened, all I know is one day I was leaving Lucy in daycare in tears and a few years later I left Tate behind without a single negative feeling.
My children are so happy. They smile and laugh and love like no little people I’ve ever known. I know it sounds like I’m trying to justify my choice to work…I’m sure that’s what many people reading this will think. But it’s more than that. I don’t have to justify my choice to anyone, not even my kids. Millions of babies are born around the world every day. MILLIONS. So many of those millions of children don’t have a good home or a happy family or food on their dinner plates. My children do. My children want for nothing (excepting maybe that American Girl doll accessory Lu keeps whining about). My children’s lives are filled with people who love them, care for them and bring positivity to their days.
A while ago, I was told by another mother that the way I parent is cruel. I won’t get into specifics, but we obviously have an idealogical difference of “cruelty.” Megan from five years ago would’ve burst into tears. She would’ve felt insecure and guilty and sad and like a failure.
Megan from today? She told said person to shut it (politely of course, she’s not an animal). She spoke of her fabulous almost six year old daughter and how despite any decisions, good or bad, that have been made, she has turned out fantasically. She talked about her beautiful son, who loves her wholly and with no pretenses. She said, quite firmly, that no matter how you mother, if you’re doing what is right for your family, you have no reason to feel guilty.
And I don’t.
Big Ideas and Time Wasters
/1 Comment/in Blond, Fun, web /by MeganHELLO INTERNET! AM I SHOUTING?!
Oh, I am. Sorry.
I know, I am the worst blogger in the history blogging, excepting anyone on MySpace circa 2002. I want to write here. My brain is filled with ideas and stories and fun, but the problem with BIG IDEAS is they take some time to come to fruition. So there is this awkward in between time where people are milling around with their hands in their pockets just waiting for things to come together…and that’s about where I am right now.
Also, I’ve had too much Diet Dr. Pepper. Wheeee!
So, until I can tell you fun things about my big ideas, here are a few things going on around the Internet that are making me giggle today:
– 10 Ways the New Mad Men Poster Could’ve Been Less Offensive
– This is what Bon Jovi would sound like if it was covered by Bon Iver.
– Oh Mizzou, never change.
– The Chuck series finale was last Friday (sob!). Here is a great article on how the show changed TV, and particularly the role of the fan.
– Shit Dowager Countesses Say is the best of this meme that I’m almost totally over. Well, and this one too (I miss my modem…).
– Harry Potter themed TOMS? Yeah, I’d rock that.
– My style-themed Pinterest board is so ridiculous. Could I have more glasses or brunette envy? Ugh, so obvious!
Catching Up
/1 Comment/in Grumples, Happiness, Photos /by MeganI’m at home for a few days with Mr. Tate who has come down with a lovely case of what I’m hoping is not pneumonia, and between the hacking and wheezing, I’m attempting to finally catch up on a few photos from the holidays…
…more to come, if I can ever peel this lovely, sick little boy out of my arms and into his bed.